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Thank you!

Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:10 PM EDT
birth, thanks, thank-you, grateful, sam-lucas
By Lkessler

Really, thanks!

And we mean, thanks a whole lot! :)

In case you haven't detected a trend--that's Spanish for, you guessed it, thank you!

That's thank you in a whole bunch of languages... *is your language in here?*

Finally, thank you to each and every one of you for being such wonderful friends--we are so lucky to have friends like you!

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Since the arrival of the baby, I have thought long and hard about how many folks were involved in not only taking care of me, but of making sure that my well-being translated into Sam Lucas being born as a healthy baby. As such, I'd like to take the opportunity to thank several people without whose contribution it would not have been possible to have young Sam come into the world, let alone doing so as healthy as he could be.

First and foremost, I'd like to thank the staff at the Perinatal Clinic in Coon Rapids. It was their staff of skilled employees that determined I was in definite labor and needed to be admitted to Mercy Hospital immediately. They made everything even easier by calling ahead of time and notifying the staff of my impending arrival to triage. Without their care and expertise, I would've gone on about my day, blissfully unaware.

I'd also like to thank the staff of nurses at Mercy Hospital. These ladies provided around-the-clock care for me from Friday until Sunday at approximately 2:45 p.m., at which time my water broke (in bed!) and I was determined to have been dilated 10 cms and ready to give birth. These ladies were tremendously skilled and kept me calm, even as I was freaking out about my water breaking--I thought I was voiding my bladder the entire time, until the nurse said: "Oh no, dear, your water just broke, don't worry, you're fine." It is that type of demeanor that makes these ladies worth their weight and expertise in gold. For first time moms like myself, they're a breath of fresh air and a reassuring voice that no matter how freaked out and out of control you may feel, it is all ok, and you're going to be fine.

I'd like to take the time also to thank the following doctors: Dr. Evan Friese, who provided the critical insulin at a time when I thought I was going to lose my mind because I wouldn't have it to begin taking it as prescribed. Dr. Friese came to my rescue by having the insulin prescription sent to my pharmacy, and available for pick-up that same night. To say that I owe a lot of my well-being during the last few months of pregnancy to Dr. Friese and his willingness to see my request for the prescription as urgent and necessary is a huge understatement. Thank you Dr. Friese!

I'd also like to thank the following obstetricians that provided medical care throughout my stay at Mercy Hospital, but who were not my main medical providers during my pregnancy. They are: Dr. Ronald Gourneau, Dr. Malinda Johnson, and Dr. Michael Slama. I'd further like to thank my main medical provider throughout my pregnancy, Dr. Anne Kern, for the care she provided throughout my pregnancy. She was rather wonderful.

Finally, I'd like to thank Dr. Sarah Schoel, whom I had seen previously during my early encounter with pre-term labor at 32 weeks, and who was an absolute joy to see. Her face alone reassured me that I would be ok and that things would be fine no matter what. She told me I could continue pushing for an additional half hour if I wanted to, or else we could move ahead with the c-section. I tried very much to continue, but the pushing became ineffective, and Dr. Schoel put me through the surgery. And although a c-section is literally major surgery, I could not have been in better hands. Together with the surgical team, which included Larry and Chris (two anesthesiologists), a battery of nurses and a small team from the neonatal unit, my c-section was literally done in 10 minutes. I am eternally grateful to these folks for their expertise, their reassurance and their tremendous care--I had no doubts about being in the very best of hands.

Last, but most certainly not least, I'd like to thank each and every one of you. Each of you, my dear friends, were a huge part of this journey, and your advice, especially those of you who said: "But, don't listen to me, the odds that you'll have any problems are very small!" were particularly reassuring. Further, given the chance to do it all over again, I'd still ask for the horror stories... I had some problems, but because I had heard worse, I was prepared for anything. You all know the saying: "Prepare for the worst and hope for the best." I'm of the opinion that if you do that, anything that happens, if it's somewhere in the middle, like it was for me, you'll be able to handle because you've heard it all. Granted, I probably didn't hear it all, but I heard enough to make me feel fairly prepared for any eventuality and be able to handle whatever came my way during this journey. So, for your frank and honest advice, thank you friends!

Finally, and most especially, I'd like to thank Hekkie. She's been such a tremendous support via email and via NV too, and she's totally taken with young Sam. He's especially lucky to have his adopted auntie Hekkie--because she sent him a care package with a really cute pair of panda bears, and assorted clothing--so, thanks a million Hekkie, it's all adorable and he's already worn almost everything--to say nothing of spitting on everything... *comes with the territory, I suppose* The striped blanket you sent is Sam's favorite... He's such a lucky little guy to have you in his life. And the card was absolutely right--it is a wonderful world because he's here.

And, in case I haven't mentioned it already--thanks!!

With much love,

Lucy, Scott, and Sam Lucas

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Lkessler

So, I guess what we're trying to say is: thanks everybody!! :)

  • 9 votes
Reply#1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:10 PM EDT
Lkessler

Oh, and special thanks to my mom for being here--she's provided much needed sanity! :)

  • 3 votes
#1.1 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 8:23 AM EDT
Lkessler

And thank you to Tori (Teri?) (sorry if I am misspelling--the ink sort of ran there, and I can't for the life of me figure out if it's an O or an E there) for the Calvin Klein onesies--they are adorable and they fit Sam perfectly! *and considering how often he messes up his clothes, they're a lifesaver!!!

Thanks so much!!

  • 5 votes
#1.2 - Fri Sep 3, 2010 3:58 PM EDT
Lkessler

PS. The above thanks at 1.2 are for mtherof3!! Thank you so much for finally ID'ing yourself, young lady!!

*it must've been all of those Mai-Tai's she was having while in Hawaii.... :G*

  • 5 votes
#1.3 - Wed Sep 29, 2010 10:52 PM EDT
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belle42

Anytime luv! Oh btw, we've kinda adopted little Megatron into the Steel Viners (we needed a Jack Jr). Hope you don't mind!

  • 7 votes
#2 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:12 PM EDT
Lkessler

not at all! :)

  • 6 votes
#2.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:13 PM EDT
CL1

Lk... one of the most beautifully expressed and heart-rendering articles I have read on the Vine. Thank you for all that you have given us as well!

  • 4 votes
#2.2 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:24 PM EDT
Holly-348328

Belle42-

What are the Steel Viners? Is it a new group?

  • 3 votes
#2.3 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:25 PM EDT
belle42

Yes, it's for those of us who embody the characters from Steel Magnolias, Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood, and Grease (original and sequel). Check with Susi for an invite, I'm not the one to ask on that one :)

  • 7 votes
#2.4 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:31 PM EDT
Holly-348328

Thanks, belle!

  • 4 votes
#2.5 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:41 PM EDT
robynlewisTX.

I'm so glad to hear everything is going well, Lucy!!

Pregnancy is never easy, and motherhood is a 24/7/365 days a weeks job. Your son is lucky to have such wonderful parents.

So....(rubbing hands together!) when did you say #2 is coming? :}

  • 7 votes
#2.6 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:48 PM EDT
Lkessler

Robyn: I said #2 was coming? I don't remember that...

I think I remember saying: "don't count me out as far as having a #2" but I didn't know he or she was comin' already!! *oh gosh, better not quite yet, or it's gonna be an immaculate conception for sure--I'm still not cleared for "action," medically-speaking. *LOL!*

But, um, yeah, not yet, that I know of, Robyn! *you naughty girl!*

  • 6 votes
#2.7 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:51 PM EDT
Tiredofit-946833

Lkessler
#23.11 - Wed Aug 25, 2010 9:20 PM PDT

icegal: I tell ya, I keep saying this is my one and only baby, but Sammy is such a joy, I don't know that I can get away with just having him. *oh no, did I say that out loud?* ;)

  • 3

  • !

UH OH !! you said it !!! LMBO !!!

  • 5 votes
#2.8 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 2:39 PM EDT
Mrs D-1475814

we've kinda adopted little Megatron into the Steel Viners (we needed a Jack Jr). Hope you don't mind!

Lucy... I'm Shelby so I have adopted your dearest baby Sam Lucas (Jackson Jr.). :-) I'm so proud of your little baby boy!!!! I pray you and yours are doing well young lady!!! ((((((Sam Lucas♥)))))))

  • 5 votes
#2.9 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 3:21 PM EDT
Lkessler

Tired: you guys always quote me at the most "inopportune" of times!! *and verbatim, too!* (sheesh!)

Shelby: well, you know how it is with new moms, having been there yourself: I'm definitely sleep deprived these days, but Sam is such a joy--he makes sleeplessness worth it! ;)

  • 3 votes
#2.10 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 5:46 PM EDT
Mrs D-1475814

Oh dearest Lucy♥.. You are feeling that extreme love for your precious baby, it intensifies over time if you can believe that. Hang on for the wild rollercoaster ride.. it's the best instints God gave us... protecting!!! Raising my children and seeing them now as young adults, makes me so proud of the sacrifices we, as parents, make for our children.

  • 3 votes
#2.11 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 6:24 PM EDT
Lkessler

Shelby: kinda scary for me to think that both my husband and I have been entrusted with not only bringing this life into the world, but leaving it behind, as hopefully a better reflection of ourselves, after we're gone.

I can only hope that we live up to being the best parents to Sam that we can possibly be.

  • 4 votes
#2.12 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:07 PM EDT
Mrs D-1475814

I can only hope that we live up to being the best parents to Sam that we can possibly be.

ALL good parents worry about being the best. You are already the best.. so no reason to change yourselves now. Just relax now and enjoy your baby son! Everyday, you will find something new and amazing. ((((((((((Lucy♥)))))))))))) This hug and love, this time, is strictly for you dearest. And, please, when you can rest!!!!

  • 3 votes
#2.13 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:34 PM EDT
cookin mama

lucy did you get your invite to the steel vines???

  • 2 votes
#2.14 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:38 PM EDT
Sue-715551

I'm 47, so it's unlikely I'll have another baby, but Lucy, I have had 3 of them, now grown, and wouldn't trade the experiences for the world; but I must admit, I am a wee bit jealous. I miss the new baby smell and the soft skin, watching them become little streakers when they learn how to take their diapers off.....lol.... Enjoy each moment, because the more you remember, the more you can blackmail them later.....lol..... Sam is also a junior agent in the T.B.I..... He's in charge of tracking down baby trolls, with Milo/aka Bratz as his trusty black and white steed, and Otis/aka Chewski as his side kick. Sighs..... I wish I had had another baby..... but, I will just have to get my baby fix with the further stories of this cute little man. My grandson is 3 almost 4 now, and I did get to cuddle a lot with him in his first few months, but they live in Wisconsin now, so it's been about a year since I've seen him. Great post sweety....

  • 3 votes
#2.15 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 8:53 PM EDT
redshadowwithgreenbackground

A great story.

  • 4 votes
#2.16 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:18 AM EDT
Lkessler

Shelby: funny how we worry about being the best parents we can be after we're already there, right? ;) But, we'll try and, if we screw up, we'll just have to remind ourselves--we didn't get a manual with instructions on how to do this right, so we'll have to accept that screw-ups will happen.

Cookin: sure did! if I haven't accepted, I'll be sure to join, but I remember seeing the email--my mailbox is currently out of control... *LOL!*

Sue: Well, we live in MN--so if you do want to get a double fix next time you're in town, let us know, and we'll meet you with Sam someplace on your way, and you can get a double baby fix--how's that? PS. I like the trusty side kick/steed selected for the child. Oh, and there he goes crying--oh, his dad got him! *whew!*

red: it is always hard to remember to thank everyone, especially if you have to remember names, but you try, and hopefully you'll do ok and not miss anyone... I'm glad you guys are all here so that I can do just that... *because these days, it's hard to remember if I ate/slept/changed clothes, let alone whether or not I happened to take a shower*

Thank goodness for being given some slack. :D

PS. Sam is beginning to eat a lot--I'm thinking the 2 oz formula bottles will be a thing of the past starting next week. It's insane how much he eats!

  • 2 votes
#2.17 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:15 PM EDT
Heckofawoman

Oh, but that is a good sign of GREAT health. Let him eat..let him sleep, just let him.........lol

They already have a strong pernaltiy from birth, they can't fight and neither can you, well to a degree.......but he is already proving the kind of person he will by. Great role modes, such as you will teach him, nothing shy of LoVE.

  • 3 votes
#2.18 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 6:43 AM EDT
Sue-715551

Lucy, we are only a couple hours from the Minnesota border..... but right now, finances are very tight, and as much as I would love to go to the M.O.A until I find some income, it's not going to be possible. who would of thunk it? Tumbleweed lives in Nebraska, Pat N,. lives in southern Iowa, Stephanie R.N lives in Illinois...... I am LITERALLY surrounded by friends.... gee, I just had a warm-fuzzy moment.....lol

  • 3 votes
#2.19 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 2:14 PM EDT
Lkessler

Sue: no worries! It's a sin to drive up right now--even gas prices are still outrageous around here! :)

So, it sounds like we should have an MoA get together soon... I'll bring Sam! (that should be incentive for most to show up--myself included!)

  • 2 votes
#2.20 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 11:40 PM EDT
Sue-715551

Lucy, if things work out in the real near future, and I get my daughter and grandson away from that butthead they are with, maybe we can take the minnesota route back from Wisconsin, as it is easier then traversing Madison, and a little closer, I think. I just posted an article on what's happening, and she is definately getting the heck (sorry hekkie) out of there.

  • 3 votes
#2.21 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 12:22 AM EDT
Lkessler

Sue: here's to all things working out as they should for your daughter/grandson. :)

  • 2 votes
#2.22 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 8:23 AM EDT
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Holly-348328

I'm just glad everybody is home and doing well!

  • 4 votes
Reply#3 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:24 PM EDT
Lkessler

Holly: so are we! *although my mom is leaving sooner than expected--bad flare-up with her arthritis that's not letting her sleep--so she's leaving Tuesday...*

I'm upset, but I'm so glad she was here!!

  • 2 votes
#3.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 1:44 PM EDT
Holly-348328

With regard to #2; if you decide to do this and have a c-section again I had them tie my tubs at the same time because they were in there anyway. Cost me less.

  • 2 votes
#3.2 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 6:14 PM EDT
Lkessler

Holly: thought about it, but I didn't want to rush into anything, especially given that I suddenly found myself there when I was not planning on being at the hospital at that time...

  • 2 votes
#3.3 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:09 PM EDT
CL1

I'm so sorry your mom has to leave Tuesday. As long as you are feeling good, maybe it will help you and your husband get back into normal routines. Did your nephew get better?

  • 2 votes
#3.4 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 11:34 AM EDT
Lkessler

CL: Yeah, me too, but at least once mom gets her cortisone shot, she'll feel much better. The weather here has been lots better today, so that helps. We plan on going to take some formal pictures at Sears Portrait Studio today, so that'll be awesome.

We're finally slipping into a routine. And the baby is sleeping for longer stretches, so that helps.

My nephew, I am pleased to report, is feeling much better from his horror bout with Dengue fever. And to all of you who live in the southern US--please, please, remove standing water from any containers near your home--it's prime breeding ground for mosquitoes that are dengue fever carriers...

And from what I hear, the most recent bouts have been horrible--it's easier to prevent it--so, carry some mosquito repellent with deet, eliminate standing water, and you'll be in pretty good shape... But you can't avoid it entirely, unfortunately. :)

  • 3 votes
#3.5 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:19 PM EDT
Jim Helbig

I had them tie my tubs

ROFL! Hey Holly, when they untie your 'tubs', let me know!

Lucy, cool article, but did Sam give you permission to be gone this long?

  • 3 votes
#3.6 - Thu Sep 30, 2010 2:55 AM EDT
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frostyone

anytime....glad we could help :)

  • 7 votes
Reply#4 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 12:53 PM EDT
Lkessler

Frosty: seriously though--thanks! :)

  • 6 votes
#4.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 1:43 PM EDT
frostyone

glad we could help..I know how scary it can be having that first child and am pleased that we were able to help get you the info you needed as well as the support

  • 5 votes
#4.2 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 4:20 PM EDT
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cookin mama

Lucy and family I am so glad that everyone is coming along fine. Baby's are so sweet and precious. And he is the cutest one I have seen in a long time. I just want to give him lost of these xoooooooooooxoxoxooxoxooxooxoxooxoxoxooxoxooxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxooxooxoooxoxooxoxo

xooxoxoxooxoxooxoooxoxooxooxoooxoxooxxxxxxxooooooooxooxooxooxoxooxoxooxoxoxooxooxo. There that should do for now.

  • 5 votes
Reply#5 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 1:36 PM EDT
Lkessler

ya think that'll do for now, cookin'? ;)

  • 4 votes
#5.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 1:42 PM EDT
cookin mama

nah.

♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((MOM))))

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((DAD)))))))))))))))))))
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((
GRANDMA))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

becauseshe has to leave early boo hoo hoo.

  • 4 votes
#5.2 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 1:48 PM EDT
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Truth be told-1349420

Congrats on the succesful arrival of your newborn angel, LK. The world is grateful to you for adding more days to its existence. Allow me to present you and your baby with this poem that I wrote to honor mothers. It is called "First Step"

First Step

With both arms extended forward cautious,

Ready to catch, as falling may take place,

The brightest smile shining on her face,

Her heart pounding delighted and anxious,

Urging those inexpert legs to stand firm,

Pleading with the ground to confirm,

A kiss from her lips is waiting to reward,

Her child taking its first step forward.

Older and stronger it has come to grow,

Many more steps since then did follow

Mom's arms, extended forward, remain;

To catch a falling child, they wait in vain

Joy turns to pain and smile to tears;

Pride cedes to shame and hope to fear.

Having grown older, weary, and wise,

A child's first step, she comes to realize,

Although taken toward its mother,

Is in reality a step away from her.

(truth be told, 2008)

  • 4 votes
Reply#6 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 2:16 PM EDT
Jerseygirl1978

Truth be told, Love that poem!!! Cute.

  • 4 votes
#6.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 6:12 PM EDT
Lkessler

Oh, I don't want to think of my Sammy taking steps quite yet... Can't I keep him little for a long while yet?

Pretty please!? Sam is just so adorable!

  • 4 votes
#6.2 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:04 PM EDT
Truth be told-1349420

Well I wish I could grant your request, my dear, but the passing of time and especially your motherly love will inevitably lead it to happen. The day he decided to take birth, that was the very first step toward independence. That's life my dear, that's life. But your love will make him grow strong and wise, and secured.

  • 4 votes
#6.3 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:32 PM EDT
Lkessler

Truth: I sure hope so--have I already said that it's crazy knowing how much I love that little person, and I barely knew him the moment he got out? I mean, really, but it's true! I love him so much!!

*I just know I'm going to be one of those embarrassing mothers... Oh well, he'll just have to deal with that fact!* :D

  • 3 votes
#6.4 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:21 PM EDT
Sue-715551

Lucy, you had nine months to get to know the little man, look at it from the internet perspective, how many of us do you chat with, and like, but haven't seen yet?

  • 4 votes
#6.5 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 2:02 PM EDT
js-445607

I am still one of those "embarrassing" mothers! My three are 43,31 and 27! It's all good!

  • 4 votes
#6.6 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 2:24 PM EDT
Lkessler

Sue: still, I kinda only knew the "concept" of him. Getting to know the little person is so much more fun!

js: I hope I don't embarrass him terribly... I just want him to know he's so loved!

And I'm an expert at diapering, too! *that happened so fast!*

  • 3 votes
#6.7 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 11:42 PM EDT
Reply
mrsrachelm

Such a wonderful article and breath of fresh, clean air here on the vine.

So glad to know that you and your family are doing well. Give the baby a HUGE bug-your-eyes-out hug for me.

:-)

  • 5 votes
Reply#7 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 2:30 PM EDT
Lkessler

Will do!! And well, sometimes, it seems woefully inadequate, but the only word appropriate enough for what everyone involved did for all of us is, well, "thanks!"

So, thanks everyone!!

  • 3 votes
#7.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:17 PM EDT
Reply
A. Macarthur

You're welcome and best wishes.

  • 3 votes
Reply#8 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 3:49 PM EDT
Lkessler

A.Mac: you're such a peach! :D

  • 3 votes
#8.1 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:22 PM EDT
Reply
Soovivers

I'm glad both you and Sam made it safely through your journey. Seems like just last week we were thinking of names and not sure if it was a boy or girl. Times flies, eh?

  • 4 votes
Reply#9 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 5:10 PM EDT
Lkessler

Soov: I know! Seems like it was just a few weeks ago. And now we have Sam! *mind boggling, really!*

  • 3 votes
#9.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:18 PM EDT
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icegal

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Your Family))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

For a good laugh, try this !

  • 2 votes
Reply#10 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 5:17 PM EDT
Lkessler

Meep Meep!!

  • 2 votes
#10.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:19 PM EDT
Dowser

That was GREAT!

Lkessler, honey, we all love you and Scott, and sweet little Sam Lucas-- our best gift is for all of you to be here, safe and sound, and loving each other. So, we thank YOU sweet Lucy, for sharing your heart with us, and letting us see and enjoy the baby, too!

(((((((((((((Lucy, Scott, Sam Lucas)))))))))))))))

May God bless you all, always!

  • 4 votes
#10.2 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 10:11 PM EDT
Lkessler

Dowser: and are you guys going to enjoy seeing pictures, too--we plan on taking at least one weekly--someone told my husband: you'll be surprised at how much babies change from week to week if you do this.

So, that's the plan. :D

  • 3 votes
#10.3 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:23 PM EDT
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Jerseygirl1978

Congrats and best wishes!! :)

  • 2 votes
Reply#11 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 6:11 PM EDT
Lkessler

Thanks Jerseygirl! I just can't believe he's really really here!

  • 2 votes
#11.1 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:23 PM EDT
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rottlady

What a lovely article! I'm so glad to read that things are going so well.

  • 4 votes
Reply#12 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 6:54 PM EDT
Lkessler

Thanks rottlady! We love having him... Is it crazy of me to say that it seems like I love him more every day? No, it isn't, is it? :)

  • 4 votes
#12.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 7:21 PM EDT
rottlady

Not at all Lucy!

  • 2 votes
#12.2 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 10:03 PM EDT
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Elaine-1503791

Lucy, it's so nice to read about all the goodness, love and help that all came to a wonderful end, the birth of Sam Lucas. And now it's just the beginning of even more love and happiness for your family and friends. You remind us all of the things that really matter in life. Thank you for the beautiful article. It's very heart warming.

  • 3 votes
Reply#13 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 8:20 PM EDT
Lkessler

Thanks Elaine! Like I said: I had no idea what I was missing before... :D

  • 3 votes
#13.1 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:24 PM EDT
Elaine-1503791

Lucy, sharing your experience has made me remember when my first child was born. She's 31 now and about to turn 32, and she has two brothers in their 20's, and one is about to turn 30. But in that very first week after she was born I remember wondering what life was like before her and I couldn't imagine life without her. The love is just magic. And it seems like just yesterday all three of them were tiny babies lying across my lap. The memory is so strong. Time is like the blink of an eye with children. It's been lovely to share your experience, especially with Sam's good health and he's so beautiful, and your recovery. That smile on your face says it all. Thank you too Lucy.

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#13.2 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:35 PM EDT
Mrs D-1475814

Elaine.. my children are 31 and 36... I know how you feel. I miss those days more than I could express.

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#13.3 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:39 PM EDT
Elaine-1503791

Me too Doc D.....they sure went by fast. I hope all is well for you, I've been thinking of you.

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#13.4 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:42 PM EDT
Heckofawoman

Mine are now 21(next month) and 23....somedays it's like their 2 and 5 to me, and other days, they are older then me....lol Yes, Lucy's experience has brought back fond, fond memories....made me think...............no, I'm waiting for the day I get to hold a grandbaby. I will be verklempt with tears, snot and love to no end!

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#13.5 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:48 PM EDT
Mrs D-1475814

I will send you email Doc E soon. We have an article to write. I've had some personal events that happened but, I will be on track soon. ((((Doc E))))

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#13.6 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:49 PM EDT
Elaine-1503791

Thanks Doc D. (((much love)))

Hekkie, I don't have grandchildren yet either but when I do I will want to move closer to my kids. They live on the other side of the country from me right now. But I'm glad they live where they do, they love it there and there's much more opportunity for them there than here. ((( Hekkie)))

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#13.7 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:56 PM EDT
Mrs D-1475814

I will be verklempt with tears, snot and love to no end!

Hek... I have two grandsons (2 and 4 yoa) from my son. All what you said and more!!!!!

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#13.8 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 1:00 PM EDT
Heckofawoman

Mrs. D - It will be very difficult to not want to give them back....and be overprotective and perhaps overbearing.....but I will slap myself before my girls do....lol (Oh God, I can only imagine how much "My cup will runneth over".....and it will be spilling!

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#13.9 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 1:19 AM EDT
Mrs D-1475814

((((((((Doc E♥ and Hek♥))))))))))))

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#13.10 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 2:02 PM EDT
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Heckofawoman

Lucy, you have so many people that love you.........I thank you for allowing us to be a part of something so personal and special in your life. Me for one, thanks for taking me back to a time, 21 years ago of those wonderful memories I had, like it was yesterday all over again. Give little Sam a peek on the forehead for me. And don't be mad, I nominated Sam to be Jackson Jr on the Steel Vines group Susi started. He is eating it up there and very popular...lol Okay choke me tomorrow, I'm going to bed soon. Love ya sweetie, Hek

(And if I ever book a flight to come and pay you guys a visit and I land in TN, your ass is coming to pick me up) laughing

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Reply#14 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 9:46 PM EDT
Lkessler

Hekkie: if your butt lands in TN, first we'll call Guy Fieri to see if there are any good joints to hit in TN, and then we'll make a roadmap to hit every other good joint on the way back to MN. I fear that we don't have really good food up here, but we can always pick up a Rocky Rococo's pizza--that's well worth it here!

I love it that you guys love Sammy so much to be Jackson Jr. on Steel Vines... :D *he's such a glam boy!*

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#14.1 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:27 PM EDT
Heckofawoman

Oh relieved....I kind of took it apon myself to do it....Glad Sam is enjoying some vine moments as well....lol Yes, he is and will be very cared for (already is:)

I am so going to continue my Panda bear hunt, it's been fun, but the little guys are extinct these days...lol Going to try the dreaded mall today, but I need to go anyway.........after first taking a zanax or maybe even an ativan, lol I'm still working on a package just for you.....it's in my head, now if I can just make it appear....god, I must have weird taste or something..lol But what I have in mind is perfect! Love to you and your family....Trish

(((((((((((((((((((((Lucy, Sam & Scott)))))))))))))))))))))))))

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#14.2 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:38 PM EDT
Heckofawoman

Hey Momma, just wanted to say HI......been awhile, hope all is well, I know you are getting adjusted, (every day)lol Wanted to actually give you some space, and not really up for any special thanks...(don't like that singling out part) but..........you are doll, a good lady and a great momma, I know you doing a fabulous job......I just wanna hear about our Sam...he must have grown so much by now, amazing isn't it? I am still on the hunt for you......LoL Love Hekkie

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#14.3 - Thu Sep 30, 2010 9:14 PM EDT
Lkessler

Trish, good grief, more stuff!?

Remind me everyone--my next house needs to be minimum 2700 sq. ft--which means I'm obviously eyeing a move to Texas; so jealous because a 2700 sq ft. house here is so expensive--I was just eyeing a pretty split level--274,900!! In Texas, the same square footage in Dallas barely dents the 100,000s, and for that, you can get some pretty nice upgrades too.

I gotta move people!

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#14.4 - Fri Oct 1, 2010 6:49 PM EDT
belle42

Yeah my friends tell me I should move to Texas too...but I'd rather deal with e-quakes than tornados any day!

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#14.5 - Fri Oct 1, 2010 7:01 PM EDT
Lkessler

Belle: I watched a tornado go by near my besties' parents' house in Iowa. It was pretty interesting.

It was at least 20 miles away, but we could see it from their porch and we took pictures. I'll never forget how non-chalant her folks were... *like it was an everyday thing!*

I'd rather deal with e-quakes than tornados any day!

That, and the heat ain't no fun... :)

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#14.6 - Fri Oct 1, 2010 7:06 PM EDT
belle42

We get heat here in So Cal -- it's the HUMID heat that'll kick your butt!

Oh yeah...and sometimes hurricanes hit Texas too...so yeah, staying here in overpriced Cali thankyouverymuch! :P

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#14.7 - Fri Oct 1, 2010 7:11 PM EDT
Lkessler

Belle: overpriced? Maybe.

Much nicer weather? Absolutely.

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#14.8 - Sat Oct 2, 2010 11:10 AM EDT
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Tommy-1025077

Good luck Lucy, Scott and Sam. I hope the coming years are a blessing to each of you. I don't think we have talked a lot but I have listened in on the grand adventure you and your family have embarked upon. Enjoy the coming years because they are so very precious. Sleep when you can, enjoy your life, we eagerly await the coming stories you will have to tell. I hope your mom gets to feeling better. The itis brothers are a terrible thing (arthar, bursi, tendon, etc.).

A Small Town, Country.Boy

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Reply#15 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 10:59 PM EDT
Dowser

Tommy, I have a feeling you know them personally, as do I... The "itis" brothers... A pox on 'em!

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#15.1 - Fri Aug 27, 2010 11:40 PM EDT
Lkessler

Tommy: thanks!! Please, lurk less and post more! I enjoy hearing from everyone when it comes to Sam... Like I said: the advice was priceless.

Oh, so you know the itis brothers too? I suspect you and my mom could sit down and talk about the itis family for hours... Stinkers that they all are... :D But, we'll get even! :)

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#15.2 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:29 PM EDT
Tommy-1025077

Deal, I will lurk less, promise. It is just you have so many good voices that most of it gets said before I get a chance. Then I feel like an echo. Authur pays me a lot of attention but eventually pain become a companion too. Someone once told me that his pain validated the fact that he was still alive. Take care and give Sam a tickle from grandpa Drum. LOL

A Small Town, Country Boy

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#15.3 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 6:02 PM EDT
Lkessler

Grandpa, it's a deal! He'll get his tickle! *uh oh, there goes the house crier!* :)

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#15.4 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 10:45 AM EDT
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dawnypawny

lkessler, Congratulations on your beautiful baby! You are just beginning to see the rewards of having your precious child. I just wrote about a wonderful family get together that started with one sweet little baby and turned into 15 people from us, as the parents and grandparents to our son's to their sweet babies of all ages, 19 to age 4. The fun of it just keeps going.

The great love that you have for that precious son will turn into the biggest amount of love, that you can imagine, as you walk through your life with him. You probably never realized how much you could love one little person and it grows and grows beyond your dreams.

I am so happy for you, my dear friend!

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Reply#16 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 6:31 AM EDT
Mrs D-1475814

I just had to say hello to you dear pawny. Hope you are well and God bless you. (((((((pawny♥)))))))

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#16.1 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:33 PM EDT
Lkessler

TY Dawny! I tell ya, it's amazing how your life and feelings for this little person change in an instant--it's rather remarkable.

Parenting is a journey of a million miles, and it doesn't seem to last long enough. Just now I was feeding him (I'm breastfeeding, so I feel very close to him all the time!) and I thought to myself: "This is amazing, I feed him with my body, and he's very content to be here with me." I just love that I am able to do this for him.

And I am sure that it will all end much too soon! *Oh, having a baby is amazing, but life seems to be in a hurry right now. Just yesterday, his belly button seemed to be well-stuck there, and well, what do you know? This morning, it's hanging by a thread--all it took was the overnight for things to change on me again.

Is it just me, or are the changes coming way, way faster than I thought they would?

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#16.2 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 1:18 PM EDT
dawnypawny

Lkessler, Life goes by really fast as you look back at it, but you are making wonderful memories with your little Sam. These are the moments that we all treasure forever.

Just sop up every joy and know that there are many more to come. It does seem only moments ago that my boys were just little guys and now they have children of their own. I love each one of my grand babies as much as I did them. It is a love that overflows in your heart, whether they are tiny babies or 19 or 20 year olds. (the age of my oldest grand kids)

Is it just me, or are the changes coming way, way faster than I thought they would?

It is the truth you will experience changes everyday, but they will be amazingly wonderful.

The very best to you, sweet mommy!

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#16.3 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 5:51 AM EDT
dawnypawny

My dear, Mrs D, You know I love you and am always so happy to see you. I am having a really great summer and doing very well. Isn't it great that our sweet Lkessler is getting to share in the wonderful times and making memories that we have experienced with all of our very special babies.

I hope you are doing very well, too and having a wonderful summer. I am always thinking of you, my very special friend. pawny

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#16.4 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 5:57 AM EDT
Dowser

Hello, dear dawnypawny! I hope that all is going very well for you! I've not been on the vine as much lately, due to computer problems!

((((((((((((((((dawnypawny))))))))))))))))))))))

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#16.5 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 1:28 PM EDT
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network-gal

Congrads MAMA! So glad you both did fine. I had 4 C-sections-piece of cake---next time you will just make an appointment...it's really kind of cool! My only warning is following a section you will tend to over do it if you aren't careful. Be patient with your poor body and if you are feeling "wilted" just take the baby to bed with you and GET PLENTY OF REST! I hope nursing is going well it's a great experience I wouldn't have wanted to miss. Don't forget a beer makes great milk!

Best wishes to your new member of the family!

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Reply#17 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 1:00 PM EDT
Lkessler

network-gal: my sister just mentioned the beer thing: I had one last night, and this morning, breastfeeding was a piece of cake!

And you're right: I had to take it easy right after the c-section. I wanted to do more, but my body pretty much refused to... So, I was patient. I'm getting to the point where I can do more. I hope to begin walking significantly next week. I've had to take it much too easy...

But, one day at a time. I'm not in a hurry--like I said: it seems like life is rushing by right now--and I really don't want it to, because I want to remember everything of life with Sam... And I mean everything! :)

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#17.1 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 1:21 PM EDT
network-gal

Give yourself the whole 6 weeks to be spoiled and pampered.

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#17.2 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 11:34 AM EDT
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mightyj

That was a nice article, thank you for sharing that. JJ

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#18 - Sat Aug 28, 2010 4:45 PM EDT
Lkessler

my pleasure JJ! I'm pretty sure that now it's all going to be articles on Sam, mostly.

Gee, am I getting baby-centric!? *lol!*

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#18.1 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 10:48 AM EDT
Dowser

Nope! You're just doing what we all do-- focusing in on that sweet baby! Which is what both of you need! :-)

Bring them on-- I get to 'relive' Peep's babyhood through your stories!

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#18.2 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 1:29 PM EDT
Mrs D-1475814

What Dowser said!!!!!

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#18.3 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 2:04 PM EDT
calmandgentle

Sounds like y'all won't be without babysitters! LOL!!! Viners are we. Spoiling's the game. Oops!! Still in Grandma mode! Look forward to picture updates.

Nothing like a new baby to bring back good memories. Can feel the little heads of my two between my shoulder and chin. J&J Baby Magic! Lucy, go take a nap! Me ,too! Worked last night and still haven't gone to sleep. Will just peak in on Sam. LOL!! "Night, night"!!

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#18.4 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 5:15 PM EDT
Lkessler

Tonight, Sam spent two hours, at least, having skin to skin contact with mom--and it was just a couple of absolutely blissful, perfect hours... and we were doing nothing but holding each other. He makes me feel like I can do no wrong--even if I do.

Although I will admit that, when I feel like I am screwing up, I feel totally down, like I'm letting my baby down--that's somewhat normal, right? I just don't want to get squeezed into the baby blues and totally feel myself going down into despairville.

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#18.5 - Sun Aug 29, 2010 11:47 PM EDT
Sue-715551

we all want to be perfect parents, that's only normal. but guess what? There are no PERFECT parents. I felt the same way you do now, but I learned as I went, and later down the road, went to parenting classes on how to deal with tantrums and such, it's called time-outs, and walk-aways.....

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#18.6 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 12:25 AM EDT
Lkessler

I think my husband makes me feel sometimes worst of all people--if the baby tries to pull away from me--as he often does, he's freakishly strong for a barely 2 week old baby!--he often screams at me to hold the baby's neck--when I am trying but Sam pushes so hard from me, that it seems as if I am not supporting his neck when I am struggling to do so.

Needless to say, that type of attitude on DH's part is absolutely no help. It's at those times when I feel at my lowest--and I wish he'd understand how it makes me feel when he freaks out, instead of just grabbing the baby himself and saying to him something like: "Hey, no fighting mom, ok pal?" But no, that'd be too good.

So, to be honest, there are days when I feel really low. And yesterday, my DH kept insisting on taking pictures after he totally upset me with one of the aforementioned antics--just because the baby looked cute on my lap. It's like: "Take a hike, will ya?" Some evenings you just don't want to feel like a billboard...

And last night, the baby was terribly colicky--I didn't get so much as 2 hours sleep. But ask me if DH got up to check on the baby or give me a break. Short answer? No.

If I sound ever so slightly bitter, I beg forgiveness from each of you, my friends, and hope that you will understand where I am coming from...

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#18.7 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 8:31 AM EDT
dawnypawny

Lkessler, While we were telling you how much joy your baby is, we forgot to tell you about the down times as well. During those first months you will probably not get much sleep, as you make a huge adjustment in your lives.

Nothing about raising kids is easy and without worry and sometimes frustration. Just remember that nothing is forever, and when the baby is fussing and the husband too, it too will pass quickly. Take a moment to gather yourself, and keep on going.

We've all had to do that, and there are many moms up with you struggling to stay awake and do for their babies. So try not to feel too alone.

Remember when frustration sets in, we are all behind you to cheer you on! Being a mom is a lot of responsibility, and often dads just don't get it. No forgiveness needed for you, as we all have been there and feel your pain. Once the baby gets a little older, you will get into a routine, and things will seem calmer than they are now.

Please feel free to express your feelings as you progress and, I for one will listen, and try to support you as much as possible. We can feel very guilty as a mom, being sure that we want to do everything right. We are all human an get tired and grumpy sometimes. The best to you in your adjustment to your little Sam. It is quite normal to feel the way you do.

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#18.8 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:47 AM EDT
Elaine-1503791

Lucy, I do understand. I was on my own with my three babies, hubby just couldn't handle any of it. I don't recall him ever changing a diaper to be honest. And I never understood why, but he always took pictures of me cleaning and scrubbing the toilet or sink or shower and I just couldn't understand it. I asked once, why do you only want pictures of me when I look my worst and I'm in the middle of cleaning or cooking? He didn't ever say why. Just a mystery I guess.

Keep your chin up dear Lucy. It will all get easier as time goes by and little Sam starts to sleep more. All the moms hearts are with you.....and probably lots of understanding dads too.

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#18.9 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:02 AM EDT
belle42

LK, just a handy tip:

Feel free to blow up at the hubby when he does this -- then you can always blame hormones later. Works WONDERS for helping guys figure out the seemingly obvious stuff!

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#18.10 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:10 AM EDT
frostyone

LOL!! that's pretty good advice belle42 and it does work :)

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#18.11 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 11:12 AM EDT
Lkessler

Thanks everyone! I just have felt so frustrated--and it's not easy--and of course, facing up to the idea that my mom is leaving tomorrow (with a huge hurricane barreling down at home as we speak!) if we can get her on her plane safe and sound, well, that's part of the trouble.

So, I am trying to keep my cool in the face of the "I wish my mom were staying longer" blues. *sheesh!*

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#18.12 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 3:25 PM EDT
belle42

Dear, don't. As much as you feel like you need to remain stable for everyone else, you need to share what you're feeling with hubby, with grandma, with bestest friends. You are not super woman who can work on zero sleep plus inconsiderate hubby wanting you to do everything for him and baby (assumption, but unfortunately happens more often than not). If need be, treat him like a child and give him chores (wash the laundry, clean the dishes, diaper the baby). I know it sounds harsh, but he can't leave it all to you!

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#18.13 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 3:31 PM EDT
Lkessler

Thanks everyone--I was just beginning to feel so badly--and I kept thinking that I was trying so hard and apparently, failing!

Sometimes, it just helps to tell you guys and you totally understand!

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#18.14 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:08 PM EDT
Dowser

Lucy, we've all been there, too.

I was lucky in that I was never depressed-- but I could have killed my mother, who was absolutely NO help at all, and my husband, who was little help. I was recovering from a c-section, just like you are, and my mother never once, the whole time she was here to help, never once picked up the baby or fixed a meal. She expected me to entertain her. My husband, who was working day and night, just wasn't around.

It was a hard time, but a happy one-- I did just what you are doing. Focused in on the baby!

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#18.15 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:32 PM EDT
belle42

Heck, I STILL get depressed and stressed and anxious that I'm doing everything wrong...and my daughter is 8! Both sets of grandparents (ex and mine) make me feel like everything I do is wrong -- which is funny since ex does absolutely NOTHING for my daughter, he's too busy with his NEW family to even go to school events. There are days when I just want to give up and let the grandparents have their way. All you can do is what you can, not what everyone wants you to do. (also, feel free to lock yourself into the bathroom and scream your lungs out -- windows closed -- to relieve stress)

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#18.16 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:36 PM EDT
Dowser

I know exactly how you feel, belle-- I have never done anything right, yet, according to some people-- Although my grandparents were angels and never made me feel that way...

We just have to listen to our inner voices and know we are doing our best. Even if our parents were sometimes messed up, we turned out ok, didn't we? (Although in my case, I'm sure that is debatable!)

Much love to you dear belle, and to you too, dear Lucy!

Lucy, all of your friends and 'VineMamas' love you and think you are doing a WONDERFUL job!

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#18.17 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:53 PM EDT
Lkessler

Oh, thank heavens, ladies! Don't get me wrong--it's not that my husband doesn't pick up the baby, or that my mother drove me crazy (although my husband did call my mom "nosey" for cleaning up the bathroom closet where he kept his medication for his hairloss, which he doesn't need--I swear, he's paranoid!)--but it's that feeling that, when I am definitely trying, he picks that very moment to pick me apart--and it's not like I appreciate that!

I will admit freely that these first few weeks have been the hardest and most rewarding all at once. I just put my mom on a plane on her way back home, and I miss her already. :(

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#18.18 - Tue Aug 31, 2010 9:01 AM EDT
Justme-517872

Hang in there L and have faith in yourself. I had a rather large baby - had to have a c-section and was on my own struggling to care for her after my mom stayed with me for the first week. Not only was her daddy no help - he also had opinions on how I was holding her or how I was feeding her or how I was.....well, you get the picture. It really bites that the time you need help the most is also the time when you have to knock your fellow over the head to train him properly. There are some super-dads out there but it seems there are more who need help getting clued in lol!! And the ladies are right - subtlety isn't very effective! ;o)

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#18.19 - Wed Sep 1, 2010 9:57 AM EDT
Lkessler

Justme: I'll try to not be subtle. But I don't want to be mean either--he's my husband, I adore him because he's a good man--faults and all.

And his faults are so minor, really. He's a good provider, a good man, and a really great husband. He went golfing yesterday evening, and I didn't mind at all.

Although I will say: I have diaper changes down to under 2 minutes flat! (I can brag, he takes a lot longer! ;)

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#18.20 - Wed Sep 1, 2010 10:06 AM EDT
Justme-517872

L, It sounds like you two have a great relationship. That's good stuff! :o) Even the best of guys can need a few thwacks over the head in the first stages of parenthood though. Have you stopped him and told him how it makes you feel and your proposal for a different way of handling it? If you just approach it as "this makes me feel like...". It sounds like he's the kind of guy who might just get it without needing to resort to the cast-iron skillet method lol!

Mine was fabulous about changing the diapers at first. Then one day he went to change her diaper before she was done doing her duty. It literally shot across the changing table. LMAO...by the time I walked in, his eyes were like saucers, he was white as a ghost and there was pooh EVERYWHERE. He just stood there shellshocked and in a tiny voice said "help???". I still wish I had that on video. That was the last time he changed a diaper but I just can't hold that against him hehe.

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#18.21 - Wed Sep 1, 2010 10:24 AM EDT
Lkessler

Justme: oh, you can say that. And he said: "I'm sorry, honey, I didn't realize I was making you feel bad--I guess I panicked." So I guess he panicked, too.

So, he's been good. Yesterday, though, the baby made a particularly messy diaper and he said: "Oh gee, that's a big mess in there!" And then the baby peed all over himself and his dad and I said: "First rule of changing diapers--wait a few minutes, even if the baby seems like he's screaming his head off--that way, you don't get peed on."

And he actually laughed! *hee hee!*

So, I can say we're officially making headway. :)

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#18.22 - Wed Sep 1, 2010 12:14 PM EDT
belle42

So THAT'S how that word got its definition:

You're a pee-on (peon) if you change diapers (or do anything) too quickly!

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#18.23 - Wed Sep 1, 2010 12:21 PM EDT
Justme-517872

L, Panic is understandable...newborns just seem so breakable! You'll both be old pros within a month or so. At least he laughed about the diaper episode - mine was a bit traumatized lol!!

belle - LOL you are too funny! For little babies who have no awareness really of what they're doing, they've got deadly accuracy don't they?

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#18.24 - Wed Sep 1, 2010 1:13 PM EDT
tomwcraig

Don't forget that your husband probably has a hard head so a shot or two from a wooden rolling pin might help him get his head screwed on straight in order to be the best help to you.

By the way, Lucy, Congratulations. It's nice seeing how the circle of life continues.

  • 3 votes
#18.25 - Wed Sep 29, 2010 11:08 PM EDT
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Tommy-1025077

Don't know what to tell you Lucy. Men are strange animals to be sure. I am not sure why men sometimes pick inopportune moments to do things. I can only speak for myself, but I have never seen my wife unfit for a photograph. She is beautiful upon awakening or worn out from her daily routine. I adore her and there are many pictures of her and very few of me in our collection. I even have one that she hates and would destroy if given the opportunity. We were in Thailand and I bought her a bikini. She posed for one shot and I hid it. I have it on my computer, but do not use it as my background or show it to just anyone. I hope your frustration passes and that things go smoother soon. We were not blessed with children of our own so I got no answers. We adopted our son when he was six and missed all of those tough years. We also missed his first steps, words and tons of other precious moments that are to come for you and your husband. I would encourage him to be as active in the babies life as possible because they go by so fast. We have been able in the last few years to take care of two of our great nieces and nephews. They only have the one set of grand parents so we have kind of assumed the other sets role. It has also brought home to us what we missed in those first five years with our son. They are hard days but when you look at them from outside very precious also. Take care Lucy.

A Small Town, Country Boy

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Reply#19 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 1:48 PM EDT
Lkessler

Tommy: I appreciate your perspective--and I will try to be far more patient--but it's not easy right now...

I'm sure your wife would appreciate knowing that you think "she is beautiful upon awakening or worn out from her daily routine," especially if she's never heard you say this--but something tells me you have told her this more than once. She's a lucky lady... :)

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#19.1 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 3:27 PM EDT
Sue-715551

Elaine, maybe hubby takes pics of you doing everyday stuff because secretly he is turned on about it and is too shy to say so.... Tommy, I was 9 years old when I was adopted, and some of the things I went thru before that are in a different article. I am so glad you were willing to take on an older child, as they have soooo much to give. Lucy, you had your mum there when you needed her the most, and that's a grand thing, not everyone would be so blessed to have a mom like yours. What you are going thru now is callled post-partum blues. Your body is starting to go back to the normal state of being that it was before you concieved. Some of those little extra kicks that you had while preggers are going away and your mind misses them. Next time butt-head tries to play super-dad, you stand up, hand him Sam and say "Here, you take care of him for an hour, I'm taking a bubble-bath." Seriously sweety, it's ok for you to do that, because right now, that's what you need and can get away with it as well. Remember, baby is only as relaxed and happy as mama is. They can pick up on moods and such. A relaxed mama is a relaxed baby.

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#19.2 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 4:17 PM EDT
Lkessler

Sue: I will try to do this--it's just hard right now. And I'm gonna miss my mom so much--I don't know what I'm gonna do with myself!

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#19.3 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:12 PM EDT
Dowser

I bet you can't take a tub bath yet-- (took me about a month before they would let me, with the c-section), but you can always go and take a nap! Soft music, cooling breeze from the fan, and just veggie out for a bit...

You certainly deserve it! And feel free to scream at your husband, if need be. My mother was jealous of every moment I spent with the baby and my husband was too wrapped up in his own world. Then, I had my 9 year old stepdaughter who was jealous to contend with, too. Sigh... :-)

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#19.4 - Mon Aug 30, 2010 10:35 PM EDT
Sue-715551

baby-girl/Lucy/ husssshhhh, its ok to feel this way little one. You have been thru a rough couple months, and it's all starting to catch up with you. the phone and the internet are great for keeping in touch, and then there is webcam as well. Things will resolve themselves in time, they always do.... ( Soft-plump hugs to you my second sunshine girl) Stephanie, my daughter is my first sunshine girl. If you ever need another mother type person, let me know, and I will do what I can. xoxo Sue

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#19.5 - Tue Aug 31, 2010 1:26 AM EDT
Lkessler

Thanks Dowser & Sue... *hugs to all of you!*

Did I not say it already? I miss my mom already. But she's on her way to see her dog, Sunny--and I'm sure Sunny is going to be happier than a dog with 10 wagging tails when he sees her.

For a change, I envy that dog!

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#19.6 - Tue Aug 31, 2010 9:05 AM EDT
Kimberly-430040

Lucy there's a lot of things going on with your body right now. Get plenty of rest and proper nutrition...Make sure you take really good care of of you! Dowsers idea of the nap and nice music sounds really good. Sometimes when all the excitement calms down and you are left with everyday life the little things start to really get noticed. Concerning the hubby...he just does not know better right now, but LOL he will learn.

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#19.7 - Wed Sep 1, 2010 1:07 PM EDT
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Wolf Wolfman

Lkessler #19.6...Maybe some music will help. Do you like Latino music?

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Reply#20 - Thu Sep 2, 2010 7:01 PM EDT
Lkessler

I do try playing music. What I do find helps is cradling him. For whatever reason, being close to me calms him down right away... ;)

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#20.1 - Fri Sep 3, 2010 2:54 PM EDT
There They Go Again

Lucy,

It's the odor. Babies recognize the odor of the people close to them (and who's closer than mom). It gets even better when they get articulate. My two year old grand-daughter is always pointing to the rocker and saying "Sit down poppa, rock a baby". Now, she's rock a babying her dolls and stuffed animals.

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#20.2 - Fri Sep 3, 2010 4:07 PM EDT
Dowser

That is so sweet! :-)

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#20.3 - Fri Sep 3, 2010 6:26 PM EDT
There They Go Again

She even has the words to the song memorized. Unfortunately, she also has some other words memorized and they're not sweet at all. Her dad and mom are now watching their mouths a lot closer. Even better is her seven month old brother. Yesterday, his aunt was watching him and he was crabby (he's starting to cut teeth); I walked into the room and he immediately stopped fussing and started grinning at me. When I walked out, he started fussing again; when I walked back in, he was happy again. He's usually pretty good with Aunt Rae but Grandpa is something special. Oh Lucy, I forgot to ask, how is the dog getting along with the little guy? I know that ours (Bichon Frise) has decided that every dog needs a boy and that Grayson is his. He watches over that boy closer than any of us.

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#20.4 - Fri Sep 3, 2010 9:31 PM EDT
Lkessler

TTGA: Our oldest dog, Brandy, gets along swimmingly with Sam Lucas. The youngest, Patch, we're a little apprehensive about--he's been very spoiled since he came to the house, and he still thinks of himself as the king. However, I do allow him to get close to the baby when the baby is with me. I'm not overly-protective, like my husband, because that might make him think that the baby is a threat--when the baby isn't a threat. In fact, I try to get him to come close and smell the baby, because I am teaching him that the baby is someone to be protected and loved.

So, with me I think he's getting a lot closer to the baby and used to the idea of the baby. Brandy I don't worry about--Brandy comes over and licks the baby's ears all the time. It's as if Brandy is checking the baby's temperature or something. :)

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#20.5 - Sat Sep 4, 2010 10:07 AM EDT
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Andrew31

Congrats on your bouncing baby boy!!

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Reply#21 - Fri Sep 3, 2010 7:09 PM EDT
Lkessler

Thanks Andrew!! He's a baby, he's a boy, not sure he's quite up to bouncing--but I sure try it when he gets a tad cranky. :)

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#21.1 - Fri Sep 3, 2010 8:28 PM EDT
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Elaine-1503791

Lucy, I remembered something I wanted to tell you. When my first born was a little cranky in her first few weeks of life, I couldn't figure out what was wrong. Then someone reminded me that infants are 'warmer' than we are, and sometimes we put too many clothes and blankets on them and they are uncomfortable. She was a November baby and it was cooler weather so it didn't occur to me that I was keeping her too warm. So I decided to unwrap her and let her little feet stick out and she was much better after that. I just wanted to mention that because I know it didn't occur to me that I was maybe keeping her too warm, but sure enough I was.

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Reply#22 - Sat Sep 4, 2010 10:21 AM EDT
Lkessler

Elaine, thanks for the pointer!!

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#22.1 - Sat Sep 4, 2010 10:31 AM EDT
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redshadowwithgreenbackground

Congratulations.

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Reply#23 - Thu Sep 9, 2010 11:02 PM EDT
Wolf Wolfman

Lkessler...Thank you for keeping us updated, while you had so many other things to take care of. I appreciate your articles and comments under difficult circumstances.

I would think your incision has not healed completely yet, and you are in uncharted waters with a new child.

God Bless You

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Reply#24 - Fri Sep 10, 2010 12:21 AM EDT
Heckofawoman

Lucy, if your reading this (I don't want you responding) but just sending well wishes, take care of you and baby Sam....you are in my thoughts, I/we miss you. Give little Sam a kiss for me and big hugs for you sweetie:) Love you guys, Trish

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#25 - Fri Sep 10, 2010 3:54 AM EDT
Lkessler

I'm taking as much care as I can right now--I'm more concerned with Sam and my youngest dog, Patch, who seems to look at him like Sam's food--and it concerns me a great deal, because I don't want him near the baby.

I swear, if that dog so much as looks at the baby the wrong way, there's gonna be a can of whoop-ass with his name all over it--and a permanent return trip to his breeder's house--it'll make me cry, don't get me wrong, but my baby first now and forever--and if his doggy butt can't take that, Patch can leave.

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#25.1 - Fri Sep 10, 2010 2:04 PM EDT
Wolf Wolfman

Lkessler #25.1...Animals are unpredictable. Don't take a chance, which you may regret for the rest of your life.

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#25.2 - Fri Sep 10, 2010 10:14 PM EDT
Lkessler

Which is why I said: if his doggie butt can't accept reality, he's gonna have to go--with pain in my heart, but he'll go.

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#25.3 - Sat Sep 11, 2010 4:34 PM EDT
Elaine-1503791

Lucy, my mother in law had a Schnauzer that growled and snarled at my 3 month old daughter and it really scared me. Then he bit her and the mother in law decided to keep the dog, and I decided to keep my daughter. The mother in law decided if my child was more important than her precious pup she wasn't going to speak to me again until I apologized. What's a little torn flesh out of the baby's ankle!

I decided I had nothing to apologize for and had two more children and 7 years had passed when she decided to forgive me whether I apologized or not. She figured in all that time, surely I would suck up for all her wealth and worldly riches. It was a little too late by then, we moved to Australia for 14 years, and she got old and died.....she was 42 when she had my husband so she was getting on up there in years. It was all for the best in my case, she made a comment once that "the only thing Hitler ever did wrong was lose the war." And she was famous for other shocking statements too. My quiet genteel nature and her hard line German attitude didn't work so well. I actually felt blessed those 7 peaceful years.

Of course, you are wise to keep an eye out to see if your puppy will calm down and get in line with the pecking order. Baby first.....then doggie.

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#25.4 - Sat Sep 11, 2010 6:16 PM EDT
Dowser

Golly, Elaine, did your mother-in-law know my mother-in-law? They sound like twins! ;-)

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#25.5 - Sat Sep 11, 2010 6:26 PM EDT
Elaine-1503791

Ha-ha! Dowser....they may have come over on the same boat together!

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#25.6 - Sat Sep 11, 2010 6:39 PM EDT
Lkessler

Elaine: which is why I'm being very cautious. I mean, I love Patch, but my beautiful son first and forever...

Of course, Brandy is a whole different story--he's such a calm, gentle dog--same breed, but a thoroughly different dog.

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#25.7 - Sat Sep 11, 2010 7:14 PM EDT
There They Go Again

What happened to me ladies? My mother-in-law is one of the nicest people I've ever met. Where did I go wrong????? I wouldn't worry too much Lucy. He's probably just young and has never dealt with babies. Dalmatians are supposed to be very good with children. Just don't let him be alone with Sam until he gets used to him. When he starts to show protective behavior (laying next to the crib and watching over Sam constantly and watching anyone who comes into the room) you'll know you have an extra bodyguard. You should see what our Bichon, Stuart is like around my grandson, Grayson. He will watch over him for hours. When the cat came up and scratched Grayson when he moved unexpectedly, the dog was onto her before my son could get to her. When my son took the cat away from Stuart, he had to pry her throat out of his jaws. I've never heard Stuart growl like that before. Usually he's afraid of rabbits. The cat now moves very carefully around the baby (of course it helped that we had her spayed) and watches Stuart very carefully. By the way, check out my column and see the new avitar. They are totally cool but I need to put more recent picture up. That one is a few months old.

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#25.8 - Sat Sep 11, 2010 9:25 PM EDT
There They Go Again

Hey Lucy, got the new avitar up with pictures taken just about an hour ago. They're still totally cute.

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#25.9 - Sun Sep 12, 2010 4:10 PM EDT
Dowser

The word is DARLING! What darling babies!

I had a lovely mother-in-law, but she died. The other ones are still living and still creating havoc in people's lives. All I can say, is thank you, Lord, for giving me a mother-in-law that let me love her. She was one of the finest, most loving, kind, and gentle people I know. I am so glad that I got to learn how to be a good mother-in-law from her!

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#25.10 - Sun Sep 12, 2010 5:20 PM EDT
Lkessler

TTGA: funny thing is, he's always behind me. If I don't have the baby with me, he thinks I'm the one in need of protection. *Patch is such a goofy dog*

But I do hope he grows out of this phase, soon. It just scares the heck out of me right now... *but then again, maybe I'm paranoid, but rightfully paranoid.*

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#25.11 - Sun Sep 12, 2010 5:41 PM EDT
Heckofawoman

Lucy, I can't say one way or the other,....but trust your instincts, your gut. I have never had that experience....as I didn't want to deal with all that....no risks. I know what my daughter would say, and she's an animal lover, but the baby is is your life. If you are not comfortable, find him a good home, and you will feel better. You can get over that, but not the other way around. I don't take chances like that. Love ya girl. Trish

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#25.12 - Sun Sep 12, 2010 9:34 PM EDT
There They Go Again

Sounds like he'll eventually grow out of it Lucy. He may be young and inexperienced and just doesn't know what he's supposed to do. He's supposed to protect somebody, he just can't figure out who yet. Might try holding the baby and letting him sniff to get the scent while petting him and praising him for being a good dog. Dogs react to scent a lot and he may come to associate Sam's smell with the praise. Also, if he hasn't been neutered yet, that may make him a bit squirrelly.

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#25.13 - Sun Sep 12, 2010 9:41 PM EDT
Lkessler

TTGA: he was snipped a long time ago. For now, my husband handles the "getting him introduced to the baby pack" thing. I don't trust myself because I don't feel I could handle him (he's a strong dog!) while handling the baby.

Heck: I'm definitely on the cautious side when it comes to Sam. I just want to do what's right. :)

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#25.14 - Sun Sep 12, 2010 10:28 PM EDT
Heckofawoman

I know that sweetie, and I know you will do what is best. I have no suggestions, as I said....but I hate it for you. Love ya though.....that is a given.

Hey, while I know Sam is thieving, how the heck are you doing? I will have to e-mail you when I have time, as I know you probably don't have too much of. I would have done it sooner, but I don't want you to be overwhelmed...I have not forgotten..........take your time. I love ya sweetie!

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#25.15 - Mon Sep 13, 2010 12:01 AM EDT
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